I went to a 90s themed party on Saturday night. It was a lot of fun looking at all of the costumes that were reflective of the times. Obviously “grunge” was a common look with the boots, concert t-shirts, and more flannel than a lumberjack convention. There were a few Nancy Kerrigans, Monica Lewinskis, and gangster rappers. Everyone had a good time reminiscing about the 90s. We learned who was a fan of “Saved by the Bell” or “Friends”. People laughed as we compared stories of wearing MC Hammer pants or even backward pants like Cris Cross.
I believe nostalgia strikes at the time of our most formative adult years. Many of us at the party graduated high school, graduated college, and even got married all in the 90s. It was a busy decade! Although I remember the 80s fondly, they are representative of my childhood and not who I am today.
How can you continue to feel nostalgia as you grow old? Assuming each of us lives through 7 or 8 decades we shouldn’t pigeonhole ourselves to only one of them. Earlier I predicted that we feel nostalgia for the time when we evolve into a version of our current selves, but why should we limit our nostalgic feelings to 1/7 of our lifespan? Think of all of the things you have experienced in each decade since your favorite one?
Remember the feelings you first had when you learned you were having children or when you got your first real job. Maybe you bought a house or moved into an apartment in a new city? Maybe your sports team won a championship or you finally learned to cook? What friends do you have and did they change over time?
Inside every day there is an option to savor it and tuck the memories away to reflect upon in the future. Nostalgia doesn’t have to mean ancient history and it is repeatable for different phases of your life.
As I was recently reminded, be sure to consider that “these are the good old days.”