I belong to the nextdoor.com social media group to keep up to date on the happenings in my neighborhood.
People post their Ring surveillance videos all of the time. Deer in the drive way. Attempted car break in. Handsome delivery guy…
But a video posted on November 1 really got under my skin. A neighbor had published a video of trick or treaters allegedly emptying his unattended candy bowl the night before. He went on to lament the terrible behavior and poor parenting skills captured on film.
Notwithstanding the idea of leaving a bowl of candy out on your front porch (ahem, awful idea)… it really irked me that he publicly shamed these 12 year old boys.
If you have read my earlier post on calling out bullshit, you would not be surprised that I laid into him. “12 year old boys can make bad choices. They are high on sugar and running in a group causing impulsive behavior. I understand why you are upset but public shaming is not the answer. Consider taking down your video.”
More and more people agreed with me and eventually the author took down the video.
I write this post because of President Obama’s discussion on “woke” society last week. He stated “Like, if I tweet or hashtag about how you didn’t do something right or used the wrong verb,” he said, “then I can sit back and feel pretty good about myself, cause, ‘Man, you see how woke I was, I called you out.’”.
Let’s all try to use a little more compassion and understanding. Being first to try to shame someone with your surveillance camera or social media post is tired. Let’s all just simmer down.